Best Things Journal

I think as we view society and our role in it it can become pretty discouraging.  We have so much too do everyday and so many hats to wear or roles to play.  Life can seem so overwhelming!

I don't know about you but I find myself getting so discouraged and focusing on what didn't go the way I planned or what didn't get done at all!  I end up feeling so defeated and end up having a pessimistic view of life.

I heard somewhere that each day that if we write in a journal the best thing that happened to us that day it will help us focus more on the good.  And by focusing on the best things that happen we will be able to be grateful for all that we have instead of focusing on what we don't have.

I love this idea so much and am going to implement this in my daily life!  What's the best thing that happened to you today?

Visualization

We've all heard to get what you want you should make a dream board and/or visualize you with what you want.  The concept behind this is that if you visualize yourself already with these things then you will trick your brain into thinking that you have these things and you start acting as if you do.

This never worked for me.  I ended up focusing too much that I didn't have these things and ended up feeling more depressed about it.

I was listening to a webinar with Richard Wiseman and he talked about this same thing.  And he said that visualizing yourself with these things is not as helpful as you might think.  Instead you should visualize yourself going through the process, not the end result!  This makes so much more sense to me!

He uses the example of giving a speech in front of a large group of people.  Instead of visualizing a standing ovation at the end, that chances are won't come anyway, you should visualize yourself walking out onto the stage, starting your speech, etc.   This will help you nail your speech better than visualizing you getting a standing ovation!

I think that this will help me so much more than visualizing me at the end with what I want.

I am ready to start visualizing what I need to do to make these things happen!   What are you going to visualize?

It's Okay To Be An Imperfect Superwoan

As women most of us have many roles that we assume.  There is the role of wife, mother, friend, daughter, cook, taxi, nurse. . . the list goes on and on.  we have so many roles that it is sometimes hard to juggle all the responsibilities.  we can end up feeling overwhelmed and stressed to the point that we feel unable to accomplish everything that we must.

I am a perfectionist by nature.  As my list of responsibilities gets longer and longer I have learned that I have to be okay with being imperfect.  After all who among is perfect?

I have friends and family that tell me they get tired just thinking of all I do.  They say that I always seem to pull everything off with style and finesse.  I hear that I must be a superwoman, and I just end up laughing.  For what they don't see is the imperfection and break downs that occur when I am at home.  No one gets to see all that, except my husband, poor man!

And when he tells me to take a deep breath, that I don't have to be perfect and sometimes just okay is good enough, he gets accused of not understanding or caring.  What he is trying to do is make sure I give myself permission to be imperfect.

We have to learn to be okay with being Imperfect Superwomen!